Expression of Emotions
Always wondered why it’s said that humans are greater than other animals because we have emotion. We can express our feelings makes u higher beings. I wonder if these are actually true explanation of why god made us as we are? I wonder…
Every relation, every role that humans play has a different angle to be viewed from. And I am sure not all angles can be justified. There will be someone out there for whom some angel of the relation will be wrong, Or unacceptable at least. Animals have just one angle… universally accepted. Here’s a though- humans are the only species which kills each other!
In our day-to-day life, we come across so many situations that make us wonder, what if things were different? What if others cannot be so bothered about our life? But then, those people are related to us. We cannot overlook their feelings. We are humans. We need to live within the boundaries of human emotions. You can’t hurt them. They are after all your parents, your loved ones, your wife or husband, your girlfriend or boyfriend, your children, or maybe just someone very close to you.
Someone once asked me why couldn’t all of us hug each other all the time? Why can’t we just be more expressive about our feelings without hurting someone else? I wondered why? Sure enough the world would be a better place if we could do that? Why do all feelings and emotions need to be tied down to some relation: emotional, physical or sexual? Isn’t that what animal do? So why are we humans? Or just the fact that humans are after all animals answer that question? Then where does that leave me with my original question: why are humans considered greater than other animals.
Every relation that a person enters needs approval, or so it seems. If we analyze any relation, we will find that at the end of the day, its just a compromise that we are living. And that steams from the fact that we are not that good in expressing our emotions. Or we loose touch with our emotions.
Ask a newly wed about the anguish they went through to get married, yet in few years, those moments will turn sour. They will end up hurting each other. Blame it on circumstances. I think its just simple lack of emotions finding proper route. Why do either of them need to give space or understand the other one a hundred percent without being expected to be understood in return. Why do dreams they shared start looking like dreams.
Ask a child, what he wants the most? I am quite certain, he will answer that he wants his parents to love him. Some one said, “The best love a father can give his children, is to love their mother.” Someone also said, “The best love a mother can give her children, is to show respect to their father.” Yet, how many homes have we seen where this is not applicable? How many broken homes have we seen, where the child suffers the most because of parents bickering? And all this because the child has no proper tool to express his or her emotion?
Ask a lover, what he or she loves the most about his or her partner? I am quite sure; they will say its there love and caring attitude. Yet why do the relations turn sour just because that same loving and caring attitude is directed towards other? Why do they expect that the emotion of a person should be expressed only partially? Just because that expression of emotion makes them feel to left out and not able to handle the others expression of emotion?
Ask a friend what they love about his or her pal? I am quite confident; they will say it’s there ability to give joy and happiness to others and to them in particular. Yet, why does it so happen that the same friends start expecting all the happiness be directed towards them? Why does the happiness of the one who gives them all the love and happiness doesn’t make that much of an importance for them? Just that these expressions of emotion become part of their life and they want it all?
Ask a person, who loves to love others, what he loves the most about others? I am determined they will say it’s the happiness that others express when the get love. Yet, why does it so happen that if others start giving same happiness to them, they start feeling left out or can’t handle the love the others get? Why does the happiness of others that they were dying to give become the cause of their pain? Just that these expressions of emotions make them feel that their expression of emotion is not worth enough?
I wonder how much better we would have been if we were just animals? Just touch, see, lick and brush each other. That’s all. No words, no tears, no emotions… yet more beautiful.
Always wondered why it’s said that humans are greater than other animals because we have emotion. We can express our feelings makes u higher beings. I wonder if these are actually true explanation of why god made us as we are? I wonder…
Every relation, every role that humans play has a different angle to be viewed from. And I am sure not all angles can be justified. There will be someone out there for whom some angel of the relation will be wrong, Or unacceptable at least. Animals have just one angle… universally accepted. Here’s a though- humans are the only species which kills each other!
In our day-to-day life, we come across so many situations that make us wonder, what if things were different? What if others cannot be so bothered about our life? But then, those people are related to us. We cannot overlook their feelings. We are humans. We need to live within the boundaries of human emotions. You can’t hurt them. They are after all your parents, your loved ones, your wife or husband, your girlfriend or boyfriend, your children, or maybe just someone very close to you.
Someone once asked me why couldn’t all of us hug each other all the time? Why can’t we just be more expressive about our feelings without hurting someone else? I wondered why? Sure enough the world would be a better place if we could do that? Why do all feelings and emotions need to be tied down to some relation: emotional, physical or sexual? Isn’t that what animal do? So why are we humans? Or just the fact that humans are after all animals answer that question? Then where does that leave me with my original question: why are humans considered greater than other animals.
Every relation that a person enters needs approval, or so it seems. If we analyze any relation, we will find that at the end of the day, its just a compromise that we are living. And that steams from the fact that we are not that good in expressing our emotions. Or we loose touch with our emotions.
Ask a newly wed about the anguish they went through to get married, yet in few years, those moments will turn sour. They will end up hurting each other. Blame it on circumstances. I think its just simple lack of emotions finding proper route. Why do either of them need to give space or understand the other one a hundred percent without being expected to be understood in return. Why do dreams they shared start looking like dreams.
Ask a child, what he wants the most? I am quite certain, he will answer that he wants his parents to love him. Some one said, “The best love a father can give his children, is to love their mother.” Someone also said, “The best love a mother can give her children, is to show respect to their father.” Yet, how many homes have we seen where this is not applicable? How many broken homes have we seen, where the child suffers the most because of parents bickering? And all this because the child has no proper tool to express his or her emotion?
Ask a lover, what he or she loves the most about his or her partner? I am quite sure; they will say its there love and caring attitude. Yet why do the relations turn sour just because that same loving and caring attitude is directed towards other? Why do they expect that the emotion of a person should be expressed only partially? Just because that expression of emotion makes them feel to left out and not able to handle the others expression of emotion?
Ask a friend what they love about his or her pal? I am quite confident; they will say it’s there ability to give joy and happiness to others and to them in particular. Yet, why does it so happen that the same friends start expecting all the happiness be directed towards them? Why does the happiness of the one who gives them all the love and happiness doesn’t make that much of an importance for them? Just that these expressions of emotion become part of their life and they want it all?
Ask a person, who loves to love others, what he loves the most about others? I am determined they will say it’s the happiness that others express when the get love. Yet, why does it so happen that if others start giving same happiness to them, they start feeling left out or can’t handle the love the others get? Why does the happiness of others that they were dying to give become the cause of their pain? Just that these expressions of emotions make them feel that their expression of emotion is not worth enough?
I wonder how much better we would have been if we were just animals? Just touch, see, lick and brush each other. That’s all. No words, no tears, no emotions… yet more beautiful.
8 comments:
Wow.... Now THAT's SOME talent u got there dear... The art of palatable expression is something that most people are not gifted with...
I could feel both your pain and pleasure while reading these lines but you know what the best part is these are not just lines but a portrait of your beautiful mind.
Keep it comin!! :)
well put dude, very eloquent...
hey mayur,
really liked wat u wrote here...makes u wonder wat goes wrong in every relation ard us.....bt i guess its expectation more than anythng else..coz can never be satisfied with wat we have nd alw want more of everythng.......
sometimes evn i thnk its better to be animals nd not worry abt wordly thngs nd their expectations.....
keep it goin
The entire discussion on ‘expression of your emotions’ can be summed up in one word i.e. Belongingness. When u belong to someone, your emotions automatically flow for that person, u don’t work for that. U dn’t have any control over your emotions and no one has.It is a beautiful feeling that u belong to someone and it certainly does not require any approval or sanction or a compromise provided u belong to someone through your breath and soul and u can stand for it. And then no one else can call names.
And when u belong to someone, it is in one piecemeal. Million of cells make u one but one cannot create that many relationships. And if u r talking of that divine love which can be shared with each and all, then u may be talking of some other unique planet. Here all our relationships exist on social platform. And belongingness can never be created in pieces, it is either there or it is not there.
Too good brother.. very out of box writing man.. but again.. sorry to say that m not agreeing with u for few of ur sentences.. m even bit offended.. but its ok.. Well now what i think.. i m not a connoisseur of love but i hv lit wisdom which i'l like to tell u.. love is a very bigger word which people often use as per their luxury.. thts y situations which u hv indirectly mentioned sumtimes happens.. but one has to understand and accept the form of love in whatever form its being sent in ur life by the almighty.. & i dont see any worng wen humans expect love bck wen they give.. V all humans are humans jst becoz we can think in rational terms.. there is no point of comparison with animals.. & its always a give n take relation.. always.. but yes there exists sumthing called as unconditional love, which expects nothing back in return.. & u know what, this kind of love is ushered on a person only once in a lifetime.. it can be from any person, ur sister, brother, a friend, spouse, father or mother(who normally is) or anyone.. its jst v hv to find him/her n embrace.. only for few blessed people can have two of such kind of love in their life.. lets take an example for instance.. if a mother loves her child the way i said, would she be happy to know 1 day her child is leaving her for a women or bcoz of her oldage.. no man, even if she gives a green signal to him, she'll always have a thorn in her heart.. & thats bcoz v r humans n not God.. thats what i believe.. find your true love of ur life,it can be anyone around u & treasure it.. n if one wanna get lucky.. jst spread love n u'll get one more blessed on you by God.. :-)
I believe in what you say.........But what I feel from the surrounding, from the society that We are social animals. We are bound to each other by some rules and regulations that is what makes us different from animals.
We follow a way of life - an organised one...for most of them...Exceptions are always there like me and u.....
We have our loved ones - parents, relatives, wife, husband, Cousins, Neighbours who effect our life....who are bonded with us in some or other way......
We form a Society unlike in Animals .....they may be in a flock but still have their individual life to live...
But we live life according to our near and dear ones because we care for them....we love them....we cannot hurt them.....that is why we are different.......
BEAUTIFUL..this is all i can say..but as u mentioned "how much better we would have been if were animals" made me somewhat not satisfied.i do belive that we need to be loud in expressing our emotions,coz silence cant be understood by everyone.but mayur i even believe that we humans gain one most important thing in our life n thats EXPERIENCE which makes us learn,learn to love more, learn to express more, learn not to expect more, learn to be strong to fight with the lonliness that comes after being not so expressive in ur emotions.and i believe thats wat animals lack in them which makes humans superior.
i have read and re read.I have no words to express. One thing is certain for parents it just the love and feelings of their children.As a parent I atleast believe that.
May God Bless You.
MKS
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